“Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.” Galatians 6:1
There are several steps to follow when you’re restoring “such a one, ” but today, I want to focus on the first: if you want to restore someone, you can never be against them, even if you were personally hurt by them. There’s no room for being offended in the process of restoration.
Listen, I know. People can say and do some pretty horrible, offensive things. I’ve met many people who said things that were offensive made choices that were offensive and took actions that were offensive. I was hurt, but I had a decision to make. We all have a decision to make when we’re in the process of restoring someone. We have to make a choice not to be offended.
People are offensive all the time. That doesn’t mean you need to be offended all the time. Set your hurts aside and leave them at the door. Remember, we’re in the business of restoring, not punishing.
Matthew 26:41 spells out the reason: “Watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
When we restore, we’re trying to help someone strengthen and discipline their body, so they aren’t overtaken in a fault. We want to get them to the place where they no longer commit the fault, and we do that through restoration.
To restore means something is put into the appropriate condition. It means to set up, to equip, to arrange, to prepare, to mend, and to establish. We establish them by setting them up for success. This comes by learning the law of sowing and reaping.
We don’t punish people or make them pay because someone already paid for what they did — Jesus died on the cross. If we make them pay, were making Jesus pay twice. We don’t put people back in their positions right away, especially when they aren’t yet prepared for the pressures that will come.
We need to let people see the consequences of their actions. When they sow to the Spirit, they get life everlasting. When they sow to the flesh, they get corruption. Hiding the consequences or avoiding a situation because we’re offended isn’t restoration. Allowing people to learn, the same way God does for all of us, with love, patience, and righteousness, is the way to truly restore someone.
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