In learning how to “restore such a one” (Galatians 6:1), you’ll get to a point when the person thinks he or she is ready and secure in the restoration, but you know they aren’t quite there. Shortcuts and premature timelines aren’t good for the person’s longevity. People need time to grow — it’s for their good.

 

However, you’ll find that there’s a point when they don’t grow. In fact, they might even make the mistakes that got them into the situation in the first place. That’s normal. People will blow it; hopefully, they’ll blow it less and less as time goes on. For most people, the solution is to forget it and work with them for as long as they want to work with you.

 

If they aren’t growing and progressing, though, it’s vital that you identify the type of person you’re working with: someone who is weak or someone who is corrupt.

 

 

 

 

The truth is, there are people you can’t negotiate or work with. They are fundamentally missing the components that will allow you to help them. At this point, once you’ve shown them love and given them the truth, there’s only one thing you can do — you need to walk away. Yes, you’ll be judged, but unless they’re willing to deal with the root of their corruption or address their weakness, these people aren’t going to change.

 

There will always be someone who wants and needs your help. Don’t spend time and effort helping someone who doesn’t want to change. If you want to be different, you’re going to have to do something different — if they aren’t willing to do something different, then they’re not that serious about changing.

 

Blog 2: 3 Things You Need to Deal With When Someone Isn’t Changing

Restoring someone is about more than just listening to them. It’s about showing them love and pouring truth into them. It’s about honestly, earnestly wanting to restore them. It’s showing them that you want to help them improve their lives and be successful in the Lord. It’s showing them that you’re not trying to criticize them, hurt them, attack them, or judge them.

 

You may reach a point, though, where you need to judge the situation. If someone isn’t changing, if someone is either corrupt or weak and unwilling to change, you need to take steps to end the session. You’ll see where their hearts lie when you help them identify the cause of their sin and trace what led them to not just getting involved in the first place, but also falling back into the sin. We usually recommend that they write this down.

 

When you have them write these things down, be prepared for these three common reasons:

 

Think about the people who come to church with financial problems because of a gambling addiction. They start to get straightened out and then end up getting a better job offer, with a higher salary — that keeps them from church on Sunday.

 

“Look at how God’s blessed me,” they say.

 

These things arise to create a distraction in people’s lives. They feel a compulsion to take the opportunity because they’re convinced they’ll never have it again.

 

If Jesus brought it to you one time, don’t you think he can bring it to you again? He knows your condition and is bigger than that opportunity and what you’re dealing with. God doesn’t put you in a situation to get messed up. He wants you to be strong. You are valuable to Jesus as a person, completely devoid of what you do.

 

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